What is a love language and why is it important?

There are 5 love languages. Love languages are how we express and receive (interpret) love. Your primary love language is like your sweet spot in relationships. It helps you to better understand yourself and allows you to teach others how to best love you. In other words, this is the number one way for your partner to express love to you that in turn influences a closer connection to him/her.

Even if the other love languages are being fulfilled, if our primary love language is not being met, you will feel disconnected and them from you, which will eventually generate underlying resentment and frustration, causing the increase of conflict and miscommunication.

All the languages are needed in a relationship. However, the primary one has the greatest influence of positive feelings you have towards each other. When our emotional bank account is full we are able to connect profoundly, understand conflict and work towards resolution, and grow closer.

The 5 Love Languages

Words of Affirmation

a. Encouraging Words

b. Kind Words

c. Speaking to the Positive Intent of Action

Receiving Gifts

a. Give meaningful things

b. Things that matter to them, even it not to you

c. Things that reflect their values, no necessarily yours

Acts of Service

a. Actions that you know they would LIKE for you to do for them

b. Actions taken without resentment

c. Actions taken with gratitude

Quality Time

a. Undivided attention

b. Not just being in the same room

c. Regularly and often in various settings

Physical Touching

a. Regular and often

b. Appropriate to the one being touched (holding hands, kiss, hug, etc.)

c. Safe touch, not intrusive, leading nowhere but that moment of

physical connection and not thinking of future